Looking at obstacles We have looked at various sorts of barriers before, in the sections on breaking chains and self-sabotage for example, but here we are going to look specifically at barriers to achieving goals. Lets look at the following … Continue reading →
Checking validity of goals It is not uncommon for clients to aim for goals that could be described as invalid. What does invalid mean? A goal that is designed to meet an inappropriate need (eg a 50 year old wanting … Continue reading →
Existential Givens There are four existential givens, and struggling with any or all produces what is known as existential angst: Death is inevitable Everyone is ultimately alone We are free to make of our lives as we will There is … Continue reading →
Guilt and Shame Guilt and shame are fascinating emotions! Some say they are merely means of control by society: a way of preventing members of society from disobeying its rules. Who has not had that feeling of “I had better … Continue reading →
Fear Fear is a normal emotion and one that is necessary for life. To have no fear is incredibly dangerous. But again it needs to be balanced. The unconscious mind cannot differentiate between real and imagined fear, hence someoneâs reaction to … Continue reading →
Ideas from therapy models Gestalt use of language Gestalt uses different rules of communication from everyday conversation, aiming to promote active dialogue and awareness. It is an approach that uses language to take responsibility be clear be in the now … Continue reading →
Problem parents All parents are problems! That may seem a sweeping statement, but the process of separation from oneâs parents, and the process of recognising that they are not perfect is often a difficult one to negotiate. A good book … Continue reading →
The Ego-state Model This model states that at any time each person is either in Parent, Adult or Child mode. Parent is acting as oneâs parents did and can be termed âcontrollingâ or ânurturingâ. Adult is using current information and … Continue reading →
Games People Play Games are maladaptive means of getting ones needs met. The concept was introduced in the book Games People Play by Eric Berne, written in 1964. Despite this book’s age, the ideas hold up very well! Games are … Continue reading →
Regression versus Progression Jungs approach to therapy was to help clients understand problems in relation to current life events. However, he recognised that PROGRESSION associate with consciousness is often served by the need for REGRESSION or learning that resides in … Continue reading →
