Personality styles There are all sorts of ways of classifying people. The Jungian way of defining people as introverts or extroverts, thinkers or feelers etc. is explained in Talking your Way to the Top. There is also the Freudian concept … Continue reading →
Worry Worry can be good. It can help a client to prepare for an event, to do their best, to avoid problems. But it can get out of hand, causing confusion and an inability to order thoughts. It can build … Continue reading →
Accountability Aha! This is a biggy. All the coaching books talk about how client needs to be accountable, and most give tips on how to achieve this. Often these tips include making the client feel beholden to you so that … Continue reading →
15 ways to be more creative Ask what if questions- the sillier the better, eg What if I paid myself a tip for every time I am nice to a client? Use metaphors and analogies, eg my job is like … Continue reading →
How to get ideas Often your client will get stuck when asked how they might do something, or what they might do. Here are some ways to help: Brainstorm In a set amount of time come up with as many … Continue reading →
The unconscious mind and creativity As a hypno-psychotherapist I have two of the most powerful things in the universe at my disposal in working with my client. Wow! That sounds good: and it is good: really good news for both … Continue reading →
Looking at obstacles We have looked at various sorts of barriers before, in the sections on breaking chains and self-sabotage for example, but here we are going to look specifically at barriers to achieving goals. Lets look at the following … Continue reading →
Checking validity of goals It is not uncommon for clients to aim for goals that could be described as invalid. What does invalid mean? A goal that is designed to meet an inappropriate need (eg a 50 year old wanting … Continue reading →
Existential Givens There are four existential givens, and struggling with any or all produces what is known as existential angst: Death is inevitable Everyone is ultimately alone We are free to make of our lives as we will There is … Continue reading →
Guilt and Shame Guilt and shame are fascinating emotions! Some say they are merely means of control by society: a way of preventing members of society from disobeying its rules. Who has not had that feeling of “I had better … Continue reading →
