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The basis of reframing is to separate intention from behaviour.

Two Major Types of Reframes:

CONTEXT REFRAME: “I’™m too ….” -or- “He’s too …. ”

Think of a different context in which the person will respond differently to the same behaviour.

MEANING REFRAME: “Whenever X™ happens, I respond Y.”

Ask yourself, “What else could this behaviour mean?” or internally think of an opposite frame or a different meaning. “What is it that this person hasn’t noticed (in this context that will bring about a different meaning, and change his response?”


Reframe I failed the exam because I am not good enough, and I never will be to I failed the exam because I believed I would, so didn’t work hard enough. Next time I will do the work and I will pass.

Reframe He said I was fat so I must lose a stone within two weeks to He said I was fat and I felt hurt. I don’t know whether he was meaning to be insulting or helpful, but what matters is how I think. I will ask other’s their opinion, and decide for myself whether I need to lose weight and tell him his comment hurt me.

Reframe No man can be trusted to I have met some men who cannot be trusted, but I have also heard of some who can. I will be careful, but not presume.

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