I have been doing therapy now since 1989, and one of the most frustrating thing for both me and my clients is when the occasions come up where it feels like the process is stuck. There is a notion for many clients as well as therapists that when a person enters therapy the processes is a forward moving one week after week. The reality is different. Whilst it is always the goal for the process to move forward and to be seen to be moving forward every week, there are times where reflection occurs or process occurs which seem to mean that there is no movement at all.
These moments, if you are not prepared for it, can seem as though therapy has “stopped working”. It is important that the therapist prepares the client for these moments from the very beginning of the process. After all, when a person has an issue that has lasted for a significant time, it is understandable that the mind will need some time to contemplate the changes which occur in therapy. These times of contemplation can also be used to perhaps even consider a different directon for the therapy to take. These times where one might feel stuck are necessary for the therapy process to really make a difference in a person’s life.