Difficulties of Intimacy
One of the most common issues I work with as a psychotherapist are issues relating to intimacy. In my last blog posting I discussed some of the difficulties of social media and face to dace interaction. This posting is along a similar line, people are having more an more issues being intimate, be that emotional, physical or both. People are spending an inordinate amount of time on the internet, and whilst this is not a problem in an of itself. There are people who find that this is the only place they can be “real”.
The irony is that this realness is generally only a persona created by the anonymity of being on line. Chat rooms where people say things to other anonymous strangers which they would never say to their partners, friends or family. Then of course there is the other issue of internet pornography.
This can of course be enjoyed in moderation and even be a part of the sexual life of couples. However, there are some who believe that this type of sex is the reality of what occurs in the outside world. When a person’s partner does not engage in the activities seen on line, they can often feel that they are missing out or that there is something dysfunctional about their relationship.
I urge clients to strike a healthy balance between their real life and their on line life.