Acceptance is Not a Permanent State
I have found that the people who tend to succeed in therapy are those who accept where they are at that moment. Now for many people the idea of acceptance is about settling and even capitulating. However, this is really not the case. In order to know where you need to get to, you first need to know where you are. This is common in any journey, even therapeutic ones.
Acceptance does not mean surrender, it is simply about recognition. So often people are unwilling to acknowledge their own truths. So often people convince themselves that they are not what they are. This is simply lying to oneself. This will not lead to change, if anything it simply leads to stagnation.
I say that acceptance is not a permanent state because accepting something today does not mean that it cannot change tomorrow. Acceptance is the foundation for change, something that can be built upon in order to make the changes a person wants to in order to live the life that is truly desired.
So I suggest that if you are not where you want to be, first accept it then work to change it so that your desired state becomes your permanent state.
